It happens more than you’d think, so if you find yourself divorced and looking for ways to manage life, don’t feel alone. Today, some 39% of marriages in the United States are ending in divorce. It may seem like moving on is really difficult, and at times it likely will be, but it doesn’t have to stay that way. Here are a few suggestions for how to manage your life after a divorce.
Prioritize on Your Mental Health
The best thing you can do for yourself after a divorce is to focus on your mental health. Make sure to take time for yourself, whether it be taking a walk in the morning to collect yourself before each day or talking to friends each week. While it can be good to distract yourself by delving into work or family, it’s critical you remember to check in with yourself and allow whatever you’re feeling to come and go.
Focus on Distractions
While it may seem a bit contradictory, focusing on small distractions can be a helpful way to pass the time. After all, time heals everything. It might seem impossible at first, but slowly, getting through each day will get easier and easier. This is especially true if you have distractions to take your mind off of the divorce.
As long as this is balanced with time for yourself, distracting yourself can be a useful tool. For many, these distractions often become work or family. According to a 2015 report, there are around 13.7 million single parents in the United States. As a result, it makes sense to want to make the most of family time with your children. This can also be a great way to work through everyone’s thoughts and feelings together.
It’s also understandable to try and block out your divorce and focus on work instead. If this is the case, creating a virtual office blends home and work to gain efficiencies in both. This way, you can be home with your kids but still focusing on your career. This can also help keep a balance in your life so you don’t neglect your other responsibilities.
Another way you can rely on distractions is by finding a new hobby or focusing on the activities you love. Whether this is exercise, gardening, sports, or reading, there are plenty of things you can do to enjoy your downtime. Find something you enjoy doing that fits easily into your lifestyle. Filling your time with enjoyable activities rather than sitting around thinking about your divorce will help you to create a more positive life going forward.
Rely on Friends and Family
If all else fails, rely on friends and family to help you. After all, it’s what they’re there for. Don’t pretend like you have to do it all yourself. And if you don’t feel comfortable sharing parts of your story with friends or family, find groups online! There’s always someone else out there that can relate to how you’re feeling, so don’t be afraid to reach out.
There are a bunch of tips you can use to help manage your life after a divorce. The most important part is figuring out what works best for you. There will be some bumps along the way, but you’ll manage!